The Dogma of 'Real Me'.

“Its 12:26 am, the lights are mostly out, night has acquired its jazz mood. Its late October, winter is knocking hard, chills blow the curtains as I sit under this shady, not-so-bright light on my desk putting my overcoat on the back of my chair as I am in a restaurant. Too cold, too vintage depicting the very mood of my life right now just right with right number of classics and right amount of wine. A lot of rights there hiding the very wrong in them. I doubt my life is going to be the same merry as before. Though with full optimism in heart I hope for the obverse. I feel like a Human female witnessing my own menstrual cycle, i.e., I feel like a teen girl on periods though I might have no idea what that actually feels like. I wanted it to go like that, little scientific with a blend of cool and all modernized-ish. With no one to talk and a lot to absorb, I sit down in anguish and little conviction to write. As writing has been a great escape and my little way process it all by stoicism.” _forward from writer.

 It’s been a real struggle to find myself, my real-true-genuine self. I don’t quite get the idea of bringing out one’s true self. Being the real one. To me, this all seems like a dogma as big as religion. It is good to hear and believe in but we all do know that what is constant and real in one’s life is anything but change. At one instant of time, I am a certain person and at another I am someone completely different. It is quite intimidating to observe how people and their virtues tend to change us. How subconsciously we want to put ourselves in versions of us they happen to like. At one hand, it is smart for a human to show this trait, undoubtedly but at another, it is draining at the same time. Many of us may not agree to the point I tried to make here but actually, its quite scientific. It is the superior gift of evolution to us. It is real and the reason why trends go so viral on social media, why fashion becomes so popular among all, why everyone wants the latest I-phone though the old one might be working completely fine. Yes, it is all because we humans tend to be with the flock. Same old survival technique but it works wonders as always. We don’t quite like being the left outs. But let me tell you friends, the left outs are the ones who become stand outs. Though not always, in some rare cases. That was the disclaimer.   

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In today’s world, fictional characters have more influence on people than real people. And it is completely ok and normal. You might see Sherlock Holmes and start acting all deductive genius and the coolest detective or you might watch Money Heist and start to act like the professor planning a heist. Though the later is good to think only. Don’t-try-at-banks thing. The real question here is, can we really say, “it’s not real.’’ If yes, what with the “you are anything you believe you are” sayings. If No, then “why not?”. Isn’t it a step in finding who you are? And I have observed people who are so indulged in fantasies and thing they just want to believe that it inevitable for those things to not happen with them and it is impossible to make them believe and realize that they are not living in fiction. When I say this, of course we are not talking about the kids believing they are vampires or superheroes but people with emotional beliefs. That, my friends, is the dogma I am talking about. Is it really important to distinguish between who you are and who you want to be? To actually kill the buzz, we are who we believe we are or who we want to be. If you are with someone and you try to put your better self forward, that is the real you. If not completely but a part of you. Being real is not so sophisticated after all. So, when are you not being real? And that, is undoubtedly our true and real self. Our existential crisis. Life to me, is about experiences. You must try all things, live as many realities as you can. The important thing is not to get stuck. Change is real. If you don’t change, that is being unreal. If you have to force yourself to be a certain someone for anyone, including yourself. That is being unreal, mate. Feeling and enjoying the flow and being open to new things is complementary. Holding on and not changing Is tragic. 

 Also, to mention there are some traits of one’s personality that do remain quite unchangeable and become characteristic features of one’s life. Some people can be really generous and kind while some people happen to care less about others and some people don’t happen to care about these terms at all and some rare people happen to hate other humans. It completely depends on a few factors like how is one brought up, parenting, place of living, exposure to world, friends, etc. But there got to be things that one truly loves and like to do, even if it is for a certain period of time. That is identified by experiencing many things. The point I am making here is that, ‘The Real you’ is a myth, no such thing exists, we experience, we behave and we change. It is normal.

 At the same time, I feel it is mandatory to mention that while change and above-mentioned stuff is necessary, some parts of you are impossible to change and even that is ok. One might change and gather a lot of experiences but his love for say physics may remain the same throughout.

I intend to put some of my thoughts in this blog while actually trying to bring out the curiosity in reader and wanting the reader to think and answer the questions I ask. I am open to discussions and views. 

 -The Philosophy which gave this blog direction.

 “Make yourself a definition or description of the thing which is presented to you, so as to see distinctly what kind of a thing it is in substance, in its nudity, in its complete entirely and tell yourself its proper name and name of the things it has been compounded, and into which it will be resolved. For nothing is so productive of elevation of mind as to be able to examine methodically and truly every object that is presented to you in life, and always to look at things so as to see at the same time what kind of universe this is, and what kind of use everything performs in it, and what value everything has with reference to the whole.”             

                           -Marcus Aurlius, Meditations.

-By Ayan Pathan 

THE STANDARD MODEL

E-mail : ayan007pathan01@gmail.com